Fairy Tales

It is a crazy journey and a crazy life. I think many people believe in a fairy tale life. I think that many Christian's even believe in a fairy tale lifestyle. As I set down with a friend of mine last night, he could not fathom that I would even consider the idea that my marriage is over. He came up with all kinds of reasons why it couldn't end, why it shouldn't end. I wondered why he was so adamant about this. I realized after a few pointed questions that he felt this way because he believed that if I could not make my marriage work how could he make his work. I don't have an answer to that accept to say that he is not me. My problems and issues are not his problems and issues. We all go through different things in our life. We have different experinces. Each couple is unique in their own way. The sad fact in life though is that not every story has a happy ending. Not everyone lives happily ever after. Does that make it right? No, not necessarily. I think there are a lot of things that we see everyday on tv and in movies that have led us the believe that the couple always works things out and the is always this happily ever after. Walt Disney build an empire on this concept. I think that it is so ingrained in society that people who should know better, they just want that to be the way that it goes. I wanted it to be that way. I wanted to be married till death do us part. Did I think that less than a year into it I would discover the things that I discovered, did I think that these things would happen to me? No way. Not in a million years. My friend was talking to me last night about his marriage, which was semi arranged, and you know what he said about it? He said, "It looks good on paper". What does that even mean?
As Christian's I think that we need to pull our heads out of the sand and stop listening to the fairy tales that the world is giving us. I believe that we need to look around, there are issues out there. There are issues that we are confronted with every single day, but so many times instead of dealing with these issues we sweep them under a rug. We think that if we ignore an issue that it goes away. That simply is not the case. Sin cannot be ignored. If God, who is the soveriegn ruler of the universe cannot ignore sin, how can we. We try though, I think one day it will be a problem for the church. I think that the church will be judged for it.
So I say this to all of you out there, I am not saying that divorce is right, I am not saying that it is wrong. I would certainly not counsel anyone on whether or not they should get a divorce. I am saying that a decision to end a convenant that was made before God is a decision that each individual must come to on their own. It doesn't matter if there are 1000 people out there telling you what you should or shouldn't do, ultimately whatever you do is between you and God. You and only you will have to live with the consquenses of your actions.
In short, God doesn't promise us fairy tale endings. He does promise to love us and take care of us. There are many promises made to us by God and he will carry through on them, but he never promises happily ever after.